Baby Language: Understanding the baby properly
From babies because only babble or cry: Although babies can not talk to their parents, but they show with movements, facial expressions and looks, how they are doing and what is good for them. Nice if parents then understand the typical signals of the baby language.
Baby Language: communication begins in the womb
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For Renate Egelkraut, chairman of the NRW State Association of Midwives and for 25 years midwife, communication between mother and child begins in pregnancy: "The baby occurs when the mother takes too uncomfortable position. And it kicks when it is active. . In both cases, the mother responded - by changing their location or stroking the belly "Hardly born babies put the whole body to express themselves: they lie on the belly of the mother, lick many babies tongue over lips, lifting her head and her gaze wanders - in search of the chest. "It's amazing what the midgets can: take the light-dark contrast between skin and nipple true and try to move in their direction," says Renate Egelkraut.
Signals of babies: Dialogue thanks to motor function, facial expressions and glances
Small babies are expressed in different ways by motor function, facial expressions and eye contact: You kick and look interested when they are ready for contacting. Spread them the finger or do not move, they need a rest. Usually even more signals come together. Will a baby his rest, it turns her head away, clamped to the body and winds, as if to wegrobben. Often just the smallest are the many charms too much that surround them and provide them with the people around them.
"With about six weeks vision is so far advanced that see a baby sharp and also fix the other person can," family therapist explains Professor Manfred Cierpka in the manual for he developed parent education course "Understanding Baby". to keep that eye contact but costs the newborn much force, it looks away from so this is a way to calm himself. Over time, the baby may be getting longer focus on something, such as a toy or the mobile over his crib: Are there in a few weeks old baby only about five minutes, it can already be half an hour at the age of six months.
Baby Communication: Babies imitate adults by
In the first months of life the baby learns to recognize emotions in the faces of the mother and father. Soon it can already distinguish between joy, anger, fear and surprise. And even more: It laughs when parents laugh or frown when parents look sad. So it tries to communicate with them. Parents react almost always right by turn imitate the facial expression of the baby. This phenomenon experts call "mirrors". Mothers and fathers can empathize with the feelings of the child getting better and respond appropriately so with time. And the baby learns to themselves and to understand his emotions and deal with time in very small increments, with his feelings and moods.
Baby signals: Responding to the baby and his wishes
When parents respond to the viewing behavior of the baby, they automatically learn to respond to the rhythm of the child and his needs: let the child time when it turns away and recovered it and turn back to him when it is attentive and eye contact looking , Over time, the sounds of the baby get into this minimum communication is becoming increasingly important: If the baby babbles to himself, parents imitate its sounds like after so that the typical Baby Talk concerned: a simple language with many repetitions and rising intonation, the small as for the baby ear and its capacity is made.
By the way, encourage parents thus also the first language experiments. If they imitate the sounds of the baby and easy to modify, the Small feels not only confirmed but also inspired to produce new sounds. If you start beyond early to name the reactions of the child - for example, "Yes, but are you looking forward" when the little laughs - helps the child also to understand himself and his surroundings better.
talk to babies: How to avoid misunderstandings
There are many situations can provoke misunderstandings between parents and baby. Often it is just the fact that mothers and fathers do not take enough time to understand their child and their needs and to respond. So most parents want their baby to sleep well and alone as soon as possible. This works well, with the necessary patience and time. If that's not fast enough because supposedly all the other babies in the circle have long trouble-sleeper, or who does not provide the right conditions, is punished with stress and shouting. Family therapist Manfred Cierpka advises: "If the parents take care to reduce all kinds of stimuli such as light, sound and dialogue with the child to sleep onset, the baby can learn to develop their own peace mechanism. Yet every child has it its own rhythm and its own development. "
Baby cries: Strategies for calming
But it is above all the crying babies, the young parents worry, uncertainty and sometimes brings despair: "Six weeks after giving birth at small shrieks of climax in volume and intensity achieved," said the midwife Renate Egelkraut. "Then that is better because their brain matures and they are better able to regulate their emotions themselves." But how should the strenuous time survive until then, desperate and overtired parents? By possible not transfer primarily their own petulance on the child and not use an arsenal of various calming strategies at every cry attack. If the baby is not hungry still has a wet diaper, it is sufficient to take it in his arms. The body contact with mom or dad works wonders for most babies. And if that does not help, midwife Renate Egelkraut advises pragmatically: "Parents should be sure to alternate in the care and the child once over to the grandparents or a babysitter to have a free evening." And when a scream attack again will find no end headphones are also quite allowed the stricken mothers and fathers soft music playing in their ears while they hold their child soothing.
Small translator: 10 typical baby behavior and its explanation
- The baby looks at you directly and follows you with the look. It laughs and babbles, arms and legs violently agitated, maybe you even stretched the hands to.
Explanation: It is wide awake and happy, would like to contact and talk, play or try something new.
- Baby fixed an object, stay calm and focused, hands are open.
Statement: It just discovered something new or interesting: Please do not disturb!
- The child is calm and relaxed. His gaze is turned away or until translucent. The hands are slightly angled, fingers loosely closed.
Statement: It is satisfied, want to rest now. Please do not offer more game deals or "entertainment".
- The baby yawns savory or grimaces. His body is limp, it lets shoulders and head hanging and looks away. His eyelids are heavy
Statement: Your baby is tired and wants to sleep now.
- The baby is restless, his head turning back and forth, sucking on cams, crying eventually.
Statement:: Your baby is hungry and looks for the breast.
- The child is restless, crying, making jerky movements or gets stiff. In addition there rubs his eyes or ears, perhaps his cheeks are flushed.
Statement: It is tired and in dire need of rest. Provide soothing ambient sounds, a darkened room. Put it to bed.
- It is restless, cries a lot, sleeps badly, winces in his sleep. Scares quickly and hands clenched into fists.
Statement: The baby is jumpy and on edge. Therefore, not too many impressions offer a row. ensure a regular daily schedule.
- The child fusses or cries, fidgets restlessly and looks tense.
Statement:: It is tense, anxious and wants to be reassured.
- Baby writhes uncomfortably, pulls the legs jerk to the body curves together or bending the head back. It cries persistently and it is difficult to soothe.
Statement:: It probably has abdominal pain. Let it burp after feeding, wear it in the "flyer grip" around, massaging his stomach and make it a warm belly wrap when it like that.
- The baby sleeps, is calm, his whole body is relaxed, the arms are bent upwards and the hands open next to the head.
Statement: It is in deep sleep. Now do not wake up, if possible.
- Vivian König: The Big Book of Baby sign. With babies communicate before they can talk. Publishing Karin Kestner, 360 pp, € 27.90.
- Megan Faure: What my baby wants. understand facial expressions and body language. Dorling Kindersley Publishing, 224 pages, € 16.95.
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